LIVE YOUR TRUTH {8 OF 12 SERIES} UPSETS, SADNESS, & DEPRESSION

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Welcome

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To society, the shift to the tribe movement. So you did so truth

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Live from Los Angeles. This is Dr. Aaron, Dr. Divinity. We come together each day to know the truth, live on spiritual principle and align with universal law. We also come together as a community in society. We are committed to being the number one spiritual leaders community in the world. And that doesn't mean just spiritual leaders that are writing books or on stage or teaching, but spiritual leaders who are the people that literally impact every single person that come in contact with it might be a mom. It might be a real estate agent. It might be whatever the new spiritual leader is. You. It is not just the spiritual leader that is on stage. It's someone who truly desires to embody truth, to live it, to speak it, and to really impact and be inspiring everywhere they go. We also develop spiritual leaders, people who are on stage having podcasts, writing books and all the above, but we live on spiritual principle and we are committed to awakening a billion people globally.

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And how we're doing that is creating world class spiritual leaders. So let's do this and you guys, it is we're on the truth triangle. We're teaching live your truth. This is a series we are in number eight of 12 of a 12 week series. Unlive your truth. This is for me work that took me 22 years to get together. This is based off of Greek Oracle processes, Socrates method, um, deep spiritual coaching, and came to a process, a framework to walk you through step by step for you, birthing your truth and living your truth. Okay, so let's do this thing. So again, the truth triangle has three sides to it. The first side is birthing the truth of who you are, you are, which is a divine, spiritual, powerful, amazing, infinite all-knowing spiritual being, right? So the first side of the triangle is power. You birth your power, restoring who you are.

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And we walk through trauma. We walk through shifting back to the true identity, releasing all limiting beliefs, releasing those limiting, uh, false identities. And coming back to the truth of who you are taking back, our power, cutting the cords, whatever you wanna call it. Right. Second side of the triangle is birthing your passion. And that is really coming down to your core values. What do you really care about? What matters to you? Who do you wanna be and how do you live your truth in that area? Right? So we talk about placing boundaries on things, getting clear of what really works for you, and doesn't work for you letting go of all expectations and basically accepting people, places and things as they are so that you can live passionately and always be in peace and, and love your life. Right? So the third part of the triangle is your purpose.

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And this comes down to understanding what you're here to do in this life. I truly believe that all the suffering you've experienced in this lifetime and past lifetimes are some of the greatest blessings ever for you, because it's really what burs your purpose in calling. It's really that part of you that is here to complete within your DNA and leave the legacy that you wanna leave. So today we are on the second side of the triangle, which is passion birthing your relative truth. There's ultimate truths and there's relative truths, right? So we're getting into birthing your truth. And part of that is getting true of what makes you thrive. So today we're talking about dealing with upsets sadness and depression. And so we first wanna define, you know, these things. And I want to disclose that if you are someone who is experiencing depression or someone that, you know, please seek medical help, we cannot ever be a cure here.

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This is a spiritual community and spiritual practices dealing with the subconscious and the soul. And so it is really, we have to disclose that if you're having, you know, mental illness or suicidal thoughts, please seek a professional. Okay. There, there's amazing resources. And I know there's a lot of people going through it. Okay. Please reach out to somebody also, if you feel like they're going through it. So first of all, upset sadness and depression. What is it? And how does it happen? Right. So when a person has been upset over a long period of time, or has repetitively experienced intense times of getting upset, it often turns into a condition of sadness. And then when someone has been sad over a long period of time, or has experienced intense times of sadness, it often turns into a condition of depression. So again, it's like a gradient on one side, imagine like on the right side, there is somebody who's blissful and happy and their life they're, they're fulfilled, it's working right.

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And way on the other side of the gradient, the line is really depression and mental illness and all the above. And how do you go on that spectrum? Cuz we're on that spectrum. It's not like you're only one or the other. You can go up and down that scale throughout your life, depending on what you do with your consciousness. Right? So upsets happen generally when we basically feel like we're the effect of life they happen. When we feel that we, you know, aren't having things work the way we want them to work, right? Upsets are they can be failed expectations. They can be disappointments, they can be all kinds of things. Right? And as those compound, they begin to turn into someone begins to get more and more sad, which basically means they feel hopeless. They don't feel like they're the cause of their life.

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And then as sadness goes on, then someone can become depressed. And that is where they, they go past apathy. They go into, you know, a state of, of even below apathy. So we wanna look at this and, and start to be able to break down, how do we deal with this? Right? How do we deal with this individually? How do we deal with this as spiritual leaders? And so we wanna first acknowledge the most important thing is really to acknowledge. I think in our culture, we often, um, shame any kind of negative emotion. You gotta be happy and you gotta be positive all the time via social media. Right? So the first thing we wanna do is really release the suppressed emotion, like acknowledge them and accept, um, things as they are and then create a new possibility. Okay. So trauma work, of course, on the other, the first side, the truth triangle dealing with the previous, um, series in this, we deal with going into, going into the trauma and the trauma work is imperative.

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Before you do this kind of work because a lot of depression actually comes from traumatic incidences and deep, deep wounds happening basically really advance limiting beliefs and limited identity going into the subconscious mind being commanded in. So we wanna deal with that first always. Okay. But if you're just dealing with a little bit of upset status and depression, you know, um, there's a little depression, right? If you're dealing with some upsets, this is a really good kind of process to go through. Okay. So let's do this. So remember that trauma work has done separately from this process. Trauma work must be done in conjunction with these processes and preferably before in order to reprogram the subconscious mind from upset sadness and oppression. So it depends upon the client whether to do trauma work or go to prior processes. Right? So, you know, I think for anyone out there, if you have a lot of trauma, you definitely need to seek a professional or you can seek, you know, one of the ambassadors or, um, work with society in doing your spiritual trauma work.

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Um, if you, if you don't feel like you have huge, huge traumas, like they are something you could handle going into it, you can do some processes. You can go to that one. Okay. But this is really about getting upset. You're upset. Say your boyfriend upsets you. You're upset with your boss. You're upset with whatever you're upset with life. You're upset with something that happened today. This is a great process to go through. Okay. So let's do it. So what I want you to do is again, I want you to get out of piano paper and I want you to begin to take notes, turn off, um, you know, whatever distractions you have, you know, pauses for a minute, go to the bathroom, get set up, get a tea, do whatever it is. I want you to stay focused. This isn't a long podcast. Okay.

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But you deserve it. If you truly, truly wanna have your best life, you gotta commit to investing in your consciousness and doing your inner work. This is a free podcast. I mean, it's like seriously set down everything, take the next 10 minutes to do this. Okay. So you're gonna write down these questions. And what I want you to do is after you're done with this podcast, I want you to go in and either go into meditation, begin to think about these questions and really contemplate them in your mind. Or if it helps journaling them out and beginning to really ask yourself these questions and really repetitively answer them. Okay? So all the questions you can repeat until all emotions and statements get fully expressed. So this could, I mean, you could do it five times. You could do it a hundred times, right? So asking these things repetitively until there's an epiphany or breakthrough in perspective.

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So if you're upset first, we wanna just acknowledge all the upsets. So the question is, what are you upset about? What are you upset about? What are you upset about? I don't want a lot of backstory. Don't get backstory. Just say I'm upset about the event today. That happened at my work. I'm upset with my boyfriend. I'm upset instead of going into a hour long conversation about why you're upset, not the why, what are you upset about? Okay. Regarding this upset with X, with your, you know, friend, your mom, your sister, your, the world, your car, whatever it is regarding the upset with X, what are you upset about? So that means something like I'm upset that the fact that, you know, my boss, um, didn't, you know, pay me on time or whatever. Right? So what is it about you need to acknowledge, acknowledge it.

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Not you need to first get out. What are you really upset about? Because sometimes people think they're upset about one thing. They start doing this work. And they're like, actually, that's not really what I'm upset about. I'm upset that I really miss, you know, um, my son and, you know, X, Y, Z, or I'm really upset because I don't feel connected to my husband right now. And it's affecting the rest of my life. You know? So you need to start looking at what's really going on. What are you really upset about? What's really going on. Right? So now we wanna get into deeper into this. So we wanna basically acknowledge all the times that you're upset to really just get it out on paper. Then we want to express the emotions. Okay? So regarding this upset, what was not communicating, and I want you to begin to think about what have you not said, what is being suppressed in you?

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Cuz really upset is being, it's being suppressed to yourself. You're suppressing yourself and you are wanting things to be different than they are. So regarding this upset, let's just pretend it's your boss. Didn't pay on time, right? Regarding the upset with your boss, what was not communicated, you know, just begin to rattle off what wasn't communicated is I think you're a jerk. What was not communicated is this isn't fair. What wasn't communicated. Um, why I don't even like my job, right? It goes on and on. So begin to really write out what hasn't been communicated. What do you need to express? Right. And it's better to do this with yourself, journaling, then go to your boss and just start spewing a bunch of stuff around. That's why we do these processes, right? So the next question, after you get everything off your chest, what you're upset about and what was not communicated, then next is, imagine that person is here right in front of you.

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What would you like to say to them? And just, I would actually just close your eyes, imagine they're in front of you and just really start communicating cuz the truth is this spiritually. There's no distance. There's no distance between, you know, your boss that lives on the other side of town and there's no distance between anyone that's transitioned into after this life, everyone's in consciousness and you can close your eyes and you can communicate with anybody right now. I've done this a lot with people who have, are still upset with, you know, their father that passed away or they're, you know, somebody is no longer here in this lifetime and they do this work and they're able to complete or say whatever they wanted to say and get completion in their life, you know, or exes, you know, exboyfriend or girlfriends. And they they're still upset about what happened and they can close their eyes and imagine that the person's right in front of them and begin to tell 'em what they really wanna say. You know, you broke my heart and I still love you. And I'm frustrated and I don't know what to do and you know, just begin to communicate it. So next is, imagine your younger self, you at a point when you got this upset. Okay.

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What would you like to say to yourself? Right. So what would you like to say in the middle of the upset, say with your boss earlier in the day, what would you say to that person? To yourself? You know what it's okay. I understand that you're mad and you don't like your job and that your boss hasn't paid you da, da, da, but it's gonna be okay. I know that you're going through a law right now, but just I'm here for you, right? Like you you're beginning to communicate. Life is communication and depression, sadness and upset is really about understanding. They say that understanding is a solvent to all of life. And if we really actually communicated that it would solve, we'd understand people's perspectives. We would understand what's going on. And in that we would, we would get freed up from all the negative emotion around it.

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Right. So begin to just communicate with the upset. What are you upset about who are you upset about with, what would you say to that person? What would you say to yourself in that upset? You begin to just truly communicate like a, if you had, imagine that you had like a, a tennis ball in your hand, you know, and you're looking at the tennis ball and you turn it around and you look at all sides, you know, you've never seen a tennis ball in your entire life and you just start looking at it and feeling it and touching it and squeezing it and then you pick it up and you play with it. And you're like, and you start to understand what this ball is, what this tennis ball is, right. It's just an example of like, you're gonna do the same thing with any problem in your life.

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You gotta pick it up and look at it and communicate with it and, and, you know, throw it around and look at it in your consciousness. Right? So we wanna fully just acknowledge what you're upset about and what you need to say in consciousness to yourself and to other people next is really accepting people, places and things as they are, this is the deal. There's only one gap called suffering. And it's the gap between accepting people, places and things versus wanting them to be different pain is different, right? Suffering, suffering is the gap of wishing people, places and things we're different than they are. So we wanna start handling this. Okay. So now let's ask this next question regarding the upset with say your boss, what failed expectations do you have? So an answer might be, you know, I have, I expect my boss to pay me on time.

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I expect for, I mean, he's the boss. He should be Le leading it. All right. I expect X, Y, and Z. Right? So regarding the upset, what failed expectations do you have? So regarding, let's just pretend someone's upset with their, their brother or their boyfriend or their girlfriend or whatever. What failed expectations do you have? I expect them to text more. I expect them to, you know, um, put me as a center attention of their life, whatever that is. Right. So we wanna start looking at what are the failed expectations and getting clear of why do you have these expectations and what are you gonna do about it? You know, you either get to accept these people as they are, or you gotta do something about it. The choice is yours, right? So once you begin to take a look and accept people as they are this just pretend your boss is never gonna change.

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Let's just pretend, let's pretend that your boyfriend and girlfriend's never gonna change. So what now? So you gotta, still keep going with this. So what boundaries do you need to create around these people? What boundaries do you need to create? Knowing that if, if they never change ever are, and your primary job is to stay in peace and fulfillment, what boundaries do you need to create around these people in your life? Right. So another question is, was there something that you desired for X that they didn't want for themselves? Meaning was there something that you wanted for your boss that you, that they didn't, he didn't necessarily want for himself? Was there something that you desired for your boss that didn't want for himself? Yeah. I wanted him to realize how, you know, I wanted him to be more organized and he wasn't, you know, I want him to be more disciplined and he is not, I want him to, you know, uh, do what he says he's gonna do.

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And he doesn't. Right. So these again are the thing where you go, oh, it's happening every single month. It keeps happening over and over again. My boss doesn't pay me on time. Hmm. Well, I better start accepting that this is just who he is. So I have a choice either stay in that job or I, I really need to put boundaries in either, you know, put something in writing that's more disciplined or find another job or whatever it is. Like you have to become the master of your life. You've got to be responsible for your upsets. No, one's gonna come save you. No, one's gonna, most people don't change. Right? They can. It's possible, but highly unlikely unless they truly desire to change themselves. Okay. So what boundaries do you need to create in the different areas of your life that you're getting upset? What boundaries do you need to create in these, in your personal professional, in the area of your, you know, friends in the area of your, your wife or husband or whatever that is your kids?

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Um, in all areas, what boundaries sometimes like the house is a disaster and everyone's, you know, there's no organization, well, what boundaries do you need to put in it? No one else gonna do it, grow up, do the work, become a spiritual leader, become the CEO of your personal and professional life and stop blaming people for your, and giving them the power to make you unhappy and upset. So now the final question is once you accept people and places and things, as they are now, we get to create a new possibility. So in accepting people and places and life, as they are, what new possibility do you see for yourself? What happens? You know, what's new, what's possible for you knowing that everything is, is what it is. People are, who they are. What's possible. If you actually take responsibility for your life and you create the boundaries and you take responsibility for it, who are you committed to being?

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And what principles are you committed to embodying? Right? So say your husband's being a jerk and he is a jerk all the time. So does that mean you wanna be a jerk or no? You know what? I wanna be somebody that is really thriving, that is focusing on the positive, regardless of he, whether he's a jerk or not. That's why I'm gonna decide to be regardless. Cuz if you decide and change who you are for the world, you are not in your own truth. You are not in your own integrity and you sure as hell are not a spiritual badass. You're sure as hell are not a spiritual leader. So who are you committed to being and what principles are you committed to embodying regardless of what's going out in the world. And then finally, what do you want to take a stand for in your life?

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What do you really wanna take a stand for, for loving people, regardless of whether they're jerks or not for being a stand for, stand on your mission and creating a legacy and no longer focusing on this drama and little trivial problems that get you upset, who do you wanna be and what do you wanna take a stand for in your life? And so in that I know that as we peel back the layers of depression and sadness and upsets, it comes down to really feeling like you are the cause of your life. Or if you feel like you're the victim and effective life. And I recognize it as you take a look at your life and you realize that you decided, you decided that you were the effect, you decided to not accept people the way they were and the way they are. And as soon as you truly accept that and you recognize that you are the only person responsible for your own happiness and your fulfillment, all things are possible.

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And so on that note, I just say, live your truth, live your truth. You have the right to be emancipated from suffering. It is the most beautiful thing you can ever give yourself, have a wonderful day. And may you live your truth? Thanks again for tuning in to Dr. Aaron and soul society podcast, I'd like to invite you to write a review on iTunes. Also, I have a free gift for you, a money meditation and worksheet, which you can find@soulsociety.com. That's www S O L C I E t.com or 30 guided meditations at Dr. aaron.tv. That's www D R E R I n.tv. We also hold monthly soul society events that are all about transformation and building extraordinary community. You can also watch me live daily on good morning, Lala land.com or Instagram, Dr. aaron.tv. Grab your free manifestation masterclass with a purchase of my international bestselling book awakening a 40 day guide to unleashing your spiritual powers, life, purpose, and manifest in your dreams at Erin full high school.com/awakening book.